Monday, February 28, 2011

Trimutual Nakedness

This theory doesn't take much convincing. Most people agree with it quickly. But it is very funny and applies in MANY situations.

If you have the same relationship with two different people independently that does not mean that you can have the same style/quality of relationship with both people at the same time.

Additionally, that relationship you have is translated through your person so that the other two involved feel the same relationship between each other.

It is easier explained in the form of a story.

It is okay for me to experience certain bodily functions in the presence of my wife. (i.e. bathroom visits) It also has been a common occurrence for me to experience these things in the presence of my guy friends because when in public of course we share the same restroom. But it is not okay (at least in Kristen's mind) for me to experience this with both her and one of my guy friends present. She says it make her feel like she is using the bathroom in front of the guy. Not cool.

Another example comes in the form of conversation. I feel comfortable discussing sex with my wife (of course). I also have discussed this with wise men, and friends. I would never consider talking about this with both at the same time. It would make them feels like they were talking with each other about a issue in which they are not comfortable discussing with each other.

Ponder. Comment.

1 comment:

Jenna said...

Clayton, do you have any theories as to WHY this is so awkward? I am curious about this because it usually takes a lot to embarrass me, but I am very subject to feeling weird when TMN occurs, and it bothers me that I can't figure out why.